This post is about something that's been on my mind for a while. It's about more than just bad language. In my opinion it's more about bad behavior. In real life I have a potty mouth. However, I know when it is and is not appropriate to "let it all hang out." For example, most people wouldn't drop the f-bomb while visiting their dear old 75 year old aunt. It's just not polite. So, why would you speak to fellow authors like dirty hookers during a chat? Beats the hell out of me.
It amazes me how many people think it's okay to use raunchy language when they speak (or write) to me just because I write erotic romance. Sure, I have no problems writing those naughty words, or reading them to my writing partner, or even saying them to a friend. But when I show up for a chat, or booksigning, etc., I am a professional. That doesn't mean I'm suddenly dried up and boring. It means I know when to discuss the hero's package and when to use milder language so I don't look/sound like trash in public.
Writers are part of the entertainment industry, no doubt about it. We may not have our faces on billboards but we are public figures nonetheless. To me (as a reader) if I showed up for a chat and my favorite author was using language best suited for a porno I'd be very put-off. No matter how salascious her novels might be, I'd expect HER to be professional. Like I said, that doesn't mean boring. It means being polite and still fun.
It also (as an author) is very off-putting to show up for a chat and find the other authors are too busy trying to carry on a raunchy conversation with each other to actually discuss their books. Or worse yet, interrupt you trying to discuss your books with their same raunchy conversation. Repeatedly. It's so far beyond rude I don't think there is a word to describe it.
I do use bad language in real life and anyone who knows me is used to it. That doesn't mean I think it's okay to walk up to a fellow author (or favorite author) and say, "Hey, I loved the cock on page 69!"